a note before bed

November 2nd, 2008

We’ve taken to middle-of-the-night sex; something I’ve always loved but found few kindred spirits were up for (so to speak). But waking up at 4:30 or 5 am seems to have struck the right balance. No stress we’ll be late. No blazing morning sun to squint against. Nobody else awake. And the grogginess adds to the whirlwind, which adds to the excitement.

We’ve slowed down some since September and October’s 6-week fuck fiesta, but that was expected. Now, beginning our 8th year together, we are, sadly, down to just 4-5 days a week of sex. Sigh.

In contrast, this is a little depressing.

I promise I’ll get around to that review eventually.

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5 Responses to “a note before bed”

  1. blorky Says:
    November 3rd, 2008 at 6:56 am

    “And the grogginess adds to the whirlwind”

    Yes, yes it does.

  2. Jen B Says:
    November 3rd, 2008 at 2:28 pm

    The ex and I used to LOVE ‘wake up sex’. I’d awaken with him attempting to enter me or I’d ease him from sleep with a hand job…

    Some of the best memories of my marriage were of those nights… and yes, the grogginess makes it all the wilder.

    There are many things I don’t miss about my marriage (as you know). But most of the sex (when he wasn’t being cruel) was dynamite.

    Sorry… you had me travelling down memory lane for a bit there. :-)

    (and I’d kill for 4-5 days a week. :-) )

  3. T. Says:
    November 3rd, 2008 at 6:47 pm

    Also - realized that link requires registration. Sorry about that.

    The gist: An extensive study on sexuality shows about 50% of women report sexual dysfunction of some kind. And of those, only 12% are bothered by it.

  4. fnc Says:
    November 5th, 2008 at 2:14 am

    Four or five times a week is nothing to sneeze at. Me and the missus run hot and cold, on again then off again for a bit.

    Fifty percent? Is their definition of “dysfunction” limited to physical issues, or are psychological issues included? That 12% figure sounds a bit dubious, considering they were focusing on people who already had a dysfunction. If they didn’t have any problems around sex, maybe they’d be more bothered by not having it?

  5. T. Says:
    November 5th, 2008 at 7:25 am

    I believe both physical and psychological issues - basically, anything that was a barrier to having or enjoying sex - were included. And 12% of those women were bothered by the fact that they were sexually dysfunctional - the other 88% didn’t seem to mind it.

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